Walking into Scary
Not too many people do this intentionally do they?
If something feels risky, uncomfortable, or anxiety provoking our human nature is to go in directly the opposite direction. Or at least to STOP and begin a whole lot of thinking (debating, analyzing) before taking a step toward something new. A lot of time we just THINK about it forever.
Do you find yourself there?
This is the fight or flight brain center doing its job. The trouble is that most of the time she is hugely overtaxing on risk and shortchanging us on the potential of beautiful rewards. So, we spend our lives giving up dreams before even venturing a baby step toward any of them.
I KNOW ITS HARD TO STEP INTO SCARY. REALLY HARD.
Three times in the last decade or so I made decisions for myself that were life changing. I knew that each would change how I spent my days, change my financial situation (at least temporarily), and all were choices that not everyone around me thought were the best course of action. All of them made me a little sick inside.
Right now, inside my business, I am always calming the beast inside. The one that says not doing this would be easier, that wants to hide when things get hard, that second guesses prior decisions. But I’ve learned (through coaching and thought work myself) that carrying some doubt and fear is required for having the life you want.
People don’t just one day lose all the inhibition or gain incredible confidence. You DECIDE TO MOVE FORWARD without it. When I coach someone toward a change in their life, I KNOW, first hand, what’s going on inside - because I’ve spent lots of time in the very same place.
During certification to become a coach, you attend regular group coaching sessions. The idea is that everyone gains from seeing others coached because we are all dealing with the same kinds of emotions – and it is SO POWERFUL. I saw doctors, lawyers, working through the intimidation of becoming a life coach. Working through their emotions around a career change, and whether they had what it took to be successful. One woman was a surgeon and had a life coach reminding her of what it took to achieve that and how capable she was to become anything she desired to be.
EVERYONE has this kind of vulnerability. It just isn’t what we put out in the world for people to see.
MAKE A DECISION. AND TAKE THE SCARY WITH YOU.
