Holding the Line

Last week was TOUGH, but reminded me why I’m committed to helping women understand the POWER we have to put some guardrails around our emotions.

Inside of unbridled emotion, everything about our lives gets harder. When fear and anger and frustration swallow the air in the room, there is not a breath left for resolve and creativity and a forward vision. And this is true at any time of our lives, not just the first Tuesday of November.

I was RIGHT THERE with many of you last week, because we are HUMAN, we care deeply and we react.

I gave myself a day to process; allowed myself to feel sad and bewildered. But then, because I know how and why it is essential, I turned down the brain that wants to wallow in disbelief, and blame and uncertainty and tapped a higher-self to move forward.

I’m sure I’ll lapse here and there. But at one time it would’ve taken me much longer to course correct because I assumed my emotional state was a product of circumstances around me. I think that’s the case for most people - until they learn about a different level of awareness, and the ability we all have to independently calm the storms that are swirling inside.

Very often people will say that they don’t want to settle that storm because they believe it equals some kind of surrender to whomever or whatever has done them wrong.

But it is truly the opposite of that.

This kind of letting go is the highest form of respect that you can give to yourself. It says, I care for myself too much to allow this negative emotion to rob me of peace and prevent me from being the best of who I am.

It NEVER means that what has happened is okay, or that there is no reason to be concerned, or weary. And it does not award that person, event or circumstance one ounce more power in the world.

What it DOES is create is a hardline boundary between what is happening and your internal harmony.

YOU OWN THAT LINE.

We have the free will to CHOOSE how much we will be in upheaval by the actions of others. You don’t have to forget or give up a noble fight, just decide on purpose to place the intense emotion (that does us harm) in a box, on the shelf, aside from the trappings of our everyday life.

In managing that well, we are far more resilient in our presence for those we love and in our fight for what is right in the world around us.

If you have trouble HOLDING THE LINE in any aspect of your life, I know how to help.